I've decided that whenever I post an outfit photo, I have to post something that's on my mind.
It's all about balance, right?
Thoughts on: willpower.
And how I don't have any.
No, really. I've tried, and failed, to quit smoking. I've tried, and failed, to cut gluten from my diet (more on that another time.) I want to try, but will fail, at going vegetarian.
When I want something, willpower comes easy. I will achieve or obtain whatever I want come hell or high water. I'm stubborn that way.
But unfortunately, my stubborn nature encompasses all of me. When I don't want something, I will hold on to that like Daryl holds on to his crossbow. (I've been catching up on The Walking Dead...) If I decide I need to do something, but don't want to, it just won't work.
How do other people do this? How does someone admit "Hey, I don't want to do this, but I know I need to, so... I'm just gonna."? Does anyone feel like it's more difficult for them than it seems for other people? And more importantly, is this being stubborn, or is this being lazy?
My fiancé decided to quit smoking a couple years ago. He just woke up one day and said 'I don't do this anymore.' Quit cold turkey. And he hasn't picked one up since. How do I do that? Is this a hardwired thing in some of our brains? Can we learn it?
I heard an interesting piece on NPR not too long ago, and here is a correlating article, about a marshmallow study with kids. Kids were told they could have a marshmallow, but if they wait for the person conducting the study to get back after a little bit, they could have two marshmallows. Long story short, the study showed that possibly our experiences in life make up our 'willpower'. If you're afraid of having the marshmallow taken away, or maybe it's been taken away before, you're just going to dive right in to the first marshmallow. This doesn't quite apply to my different situations directly, but I can understand the influence it might have on someone.
For example, if I've been told I can't smoke in the past, maybe I'm afraid of willingly let it go now that I can do whatever I want.
Delving into your own psyche can be a strange thing, no?
I'd like to know your thoughts on this. Do you have a problem with willpower? Or are you someone who can put down or pick up anything immediately, and stick with it? Do you think this is something hardwired, or due to our experiences?